{"id":33647,"date":"2019-01-07T16:29:24","date_gmt":"2019-01-08T00:29:24","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.careersingovernment.com\/tools\/?p=33647"},"modified":"2019-01-07T16:29:37","modified_gmt":"2019-01-08T00:29:37","slug":"intentionally-choose-words-to-shape-your-career-and-life","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.careersingovernment.com\/tools\/gov-talk\/career-advice\/intentionally-choose-words-to-shape-your-career-and-life\/","title":{"rendered":"Intentionally Choose Words to Shape Your Career and Life"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Intentionally Choose Words to Shape Your Career and Life<\/span><\/p>\n

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\u201cI\u2019m not worried. I\u2019m not worried. It will be fine.\u201d The self-talk raged in my head, and it showed up in conversations with friends.<\/p>\n

I thought I was being positive by repeating \u201cIt will be fine\u201d but my brain heard \u201cWorry\u201d over and over again, so it gave me worry. Words matter.<\/p>\n

As an insightful leader, the words you repeat to yourself have more impact than those you say to others. \u00a0Your self-talk affects your outlook, how you show up to others, and your demeanor.<\/p>\n

I was reminded of the power of words during a retreat I attended some time ago. At the retreat, we were encouraged to write out the kind of life we wanted to live and design a business to support that life. I thought, \u201cIf I don\u2019t want \u2018worry,\u2019 what do I want?\u201d \u00a0\u00a0Easy. I\u2019d like it to be easy to grow my business. I started feeding \u201ceasy\u201d into my brain. And I bought a Staples \u201cEasy\u00ae\u201d button as a daily reminder.<\/p>\n

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Words matter. Choose yours carefully and positively.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Here are some steps you can take to use words to get what you want.<\/strong><\/h4>\n
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  1. Choose positive words<\/b>. Choose positive words that reflect the state of mind you want rather than the state of mind you don\u2019t want. Instead of saying, \u201cI\u2019m not ________\u201d say \u201cI am _______.\u201d Leave the \u201cnot\u201d behind. Your brain responds to the words you say repeatedly. Whether it\u2019s worry, easy, hard, peaceful, or frustrated, your brain creates what you tell it.<\/li>\n
  2. Repeat and repeat again<\/b>. The brain pays attention to repetition. The more you state something, particularly out loud, the more likely your brain will pay attention. The more you say positive words, intentionally, the more your brain embeds it.<\/li>\n
  3. Reminders<\/b>. It\u2019s difficult to create a new habit and eliminate an old one. That\u2019s why you need reminders to force you and your brain to remember the new words. My \u201cEasy\u201d button made all the difference. It is a daily reminder of my new, positive word. \u00a0What will remind you of the positive words you choose? The more reminders, the more likely you are to use and believe them.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    Words matter. Choose yours carefully and positively. Leave the \u201cnot\u201d behind. Surround yourself with reminders. It\u2019s like pressing the Easy\u00ae button.<\/p>\n

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