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Fifty percent of this year is gone. Question, have you reached 50 percent or half of your goals?<\/p>\nFifty percent of this year is gone. Question, have you reached 50 percent or half of your goals?<\/p>\n
If one of your goals is to be successful in any area of your life or career before 2016 comes to an end, the one thing you must to do is to become an attractive person.<\/p>\n
Late motivational speaker Jim Rohn once said, \u201cSuccess is something you attract by the person\u00a0you become<\/em><\/strong>.\u201d Rohn of course, isn\u2019t referring to external attractiveness, rather the internal kind.<\/p>\n If you want success and all that it brings, you have to\u00a0become<\/em><\/strong>\u00a0a better, more attractive person. Period.<\/p>\n Rohn continues, \u201cYour level of success will rarely exceed your level of personal development.\u201d<\/p>\n You\u00a0become attractive by<\/em><\/strong>\u00a0developing yourself into the person you need\u00a0to be<\/em><\/strong>\u00a0in order to attract, create, and sustain the level of success you want in your life.<\/p>\n How so?<\/p>\n In his book,\u00a0The Morning Miracle<\/em><\/strong>, author Hal Elrod says that we all want \u201cLevel 10\u201d success in every area of our lives, such as:<\/p>\n Yet our level of\u00a0personal development<\/em>\u00a0is not currently at a \u201cLevel 10\u201d. Personal development can be summed up as the following:<\/p>\n So when Rohn says, \u201cYour level of success will rarely exceed your level of personal development,\u201d he means that if your knowledge, experience, mindset and beliefs are not also at a \u201cLevel 10\u201d, you will never experience \u201cLevel 10\u201d happiness in any significant area of your life.<\/p>\n Life will always be a struggle, because, as he states, our outer world will always be a reflection of our inner world. Your level of success or lack thereof will always parallel your level of personal development.<\/p>\n Personal development starts by taking 100 percent responsibility for everything in your life. This includes the level of your achievements, the results you produce or lack thereof, the quality of your relationships, the state of your health, your income, your debts, your feelings, your thoughts and emotions.<\/p>\n That isn\u2019t always easy. Why?<\/p>\n Because most of us have been conditioned to blame something outside of ourselves for the parts of our life that we don\u2019t like or aren\u2019t working. For instance do you blame any of the following people\/situations for the setbacks in your life or for not having achieved everything you could\u2019ve?<\/p>\n The list is endless.<\/p>\n \u201cIf you want your life to be different, you have to be willing to do something different first.\u201d \u2013 Kevin Bracy<\/p>\n Are you willing?<\/p>\n The 10-Step Process<\/strong><\/p>\n If you are going to be successful in any area of your life, you first have to believe that you are capable of making it happen. I start with this as a groundwork because self-esteem is the single most significant key to your behavior. Motivational Speaker Zig Ziglar said, \u201cIt\u2019s impossible to consistently behave in a manner inconsistent with how we see ourselves.\u201d You have to believe you can do it. You have to believe you have the knowledge, skills and abilities to create the results you desire. If you believe you are worthless, you will not be motivated to add value to yourself.<\/p>\n It all comes down to your attitude. Believing in yourself is an attitude. The great part about it is that you have a choice. When you were a kid, you couldn\u2019t choose your parents or environment. But now that you are an adult, the choice of how you see and talk to yourself is yours. You must now choose to believe that anything you set your mind to, you can achieve. Ziglar also said, \u201cIt\u2019s not your aptitude, but your attitude, that determines your altitude.\u201d If you will just believe it is possible, then you will do what it takes to bring about your desired result, but if you think it is impossible, you will not do what is necessary, you will continue to get zero results. Because in life, you hit what you aim for, if you aim at nothing, you will hit it every time. So now, I hope I have you convinced that you have to believe in order to achieve.<\/p>\n Step 1: Examine Your Self-Talk<\/strong><\/p>\n \u00a0<\/strong>\u201cYou are the most influential person you will talk to all day\u201d \u2013 Zig Ziglar<\/p>\n If I was to record how you talk to yourself all day, would I be pleased at how thoughtful and loving you are to yourself? Or would I hear you berate and tear yourself down all day?<\/p>\n Whether you know it or not, you have a running conversation with yourself all day, every day. Do you encourage or criticize yourself? Are you positive or negative with yourself? How you talk to yourself really does make a difference because if you want to change your life, you have to change not only the way you think about yourself, but more importantly, how you\u00a0talk\u00a0<\/em>to yourself.<\/p>\n If you have someone in your life that constantly encourages you, that\u2019s terrific. But even if you do or don\u2019t, you need to become your own cheerleader. You need to become your own encourager. Stop and think, have you ever complimented someone? I\u2019m guessing yes. Now, have you ever complimented yourself on how you look, feel, on a job well-done? Don\u2019t just recognize other people, recognize you. Start speaking positively and consolingly to yourself. When you make a mistake, don\u2019t berate yourself, just tell yourself you will do better next time and you are gaining valuable experience.<\/p>\n Step 2: Banish your Limiting Beliefs<\/strong><\/p>\n \u201cWhen a man has put a limit on what he will do, he has put a limit on what he can do.\u201d \u2013 Charles Schwab<\/strong><\/p>\n The greatest prison is the prison we create for ourselves. When we tell ourselves that we can\u2019t do something or we are not good enough or worthy, this distances us from our true value and worth as a human being. You are worthy simply because you exist.<\/p>\n In the book,\u00a0Success Principles<\/em><\/strong>, Jack Canfield outlines four steps to transforming your limiting beliefs into empowering ones.<\/p>\n Step 3:\u00a0Develop A Positive Attitude<\/strong><\/p>\n \u201cEvery man is where he is by the law of his being; the thoughts he has built into his character have brought him here.\u201d \u2013James Allen<\/strong><\/p>\n According to Canadian psychologist Sydney Jourard, 85 percent of your success in work is determined by your attitude and personality.<\/p>\n In his book,\u00a0As A Man Thinketh,<\/em>\u00a0James Allen says we do not attract what we want, but rather we attract who we are, for we are the sum total of our thoughts.<\/p>\n A positive mental attitude affects your outlook on life which in turn affects your behavior.<\/p>\n Our minds are extraordinarily powerful. Your thoughts control and determine almost everything that happens to you. Our thoughts can either make us happy or sad. That\u2019s why developing a positive mental attitude is so important. Our thoughts trigger images, pictures and emotions that can either make us dwell on success and confidence or the exact opposite. For whatever we think and believe with conviction will become our reality.<\/p>\n It has been said that the world is a living expression of how you are using and have chosen to use your mind. So protect it at all costs. Never finish a negative sentence. Don\u2019t dwell on negative things. Dwell only on good and good will follow.<\/p>\n Step 4: Add Value<\/strong><\/p>\n One of the quickest ways to change your negativity into positivity is to add value or simply help someone else. Making a difference in the life of someone else invariably lifts your own self-esteem. It\u2019s difficult to feel bad about yourself when you\u2019re doing something nice for someone else. There is also a reciprocal effect.<\/p>\n When you add value to others, they value you more. So you get to have more love in your life. That\u2019s the beauty in giving. When you give to others, you benefit. The famous scripture is true, \u201cThere is more happiness in giving.\u201d I heard someone once say, \u201cWhatever you want in life, give to others.\u201d If you want more love in your life, then be more loving to others. If you want more support. Be more supportive to others. If you want more understanding, be more understandable with others. It\u2019s really that simple.<\/p>\n Step 5: Always Do The Right Thing<\/strong><\/p>\n Since your self-worth is based upon positive habits, actions and decisions, you most definitely want to stay away from the feeling of guilt. You can do this when you make a commitment to always do what\u2019s right, even if it\u2019s difficult. When you feel guilty about something, it harms your self-image and self-esteem.<\/p>\n Conversely, when you do the things that are right, you continue to build character, the same way you play Jenga. You are building blocks that constantly elevate your self-image. You become a stronger and more positive person.<\/p>\n Step 6: Take 100-percent responsibility for your life<\/strong><\/p>\n If you want to be successful, you will have to lose the \u201cblame-game\u201d mentality. You know what I mean, right? If your relationships aren\u2019t going the way you want, you can\u2019t blame the other person, you have to take full responsibility. If your health isn\u2019t good, you can\u2019t blame anyone, you\u2019ve decided what to eat, so you must take full responsibility. If you are in debt, you can\u2019t blame the economy, you have to take 100-percent responsibility for the financial state you\u2019re in. I know this isn\u2019t easy, but it\u2019s a must if you want to be successful. Oh, by the way, this also goes for complaining. No more of that either because when you complain, you are blaming other people. You are the common denominator in your life, so that means you are the cause of all your life experiences.<\/p>\n If you add 2 plus 2 and get 5, is it the fault of mathematics? No, it\u2019s YOU. If you are not getting the results you want in life, it\u2019s not because of something outside yourself, it\u2019s YOU. You are the problem, but fortunately, you are the solution as well. So no more lame excuses, ok? If something doesn\u2019t go as planned, ask, \u201cHow did I create or contribute to this? What can I learn from this? How can I avoid this outcome in the future? The truth is that, you either create or allow everything that happens to you. You create it by your actions. You allow it by your inactions, or in other words, your unwillingness to change. When you fully understand this, you will come from a place of power and make the changes that need to be made.<\/p>\n Step 7: Decide Exactly What You Want<\/strong><\/p>\n \u201cThe world has a habit of making room for the man whose words and actions show that he knows where he is going\u201d. \u2013 Napoleon Hill<\/strong><\/p>\n In order to attain professional achievement, you must decide what you really want from your life and career. Take a minute to identify what you love doing. What is your passion? Look deep inside yourself to determine what you really enjoy.<\/p>\n It\u2019s simple. All of us have a gift. Determine whatever it is you enjoy doing that takes the least amount of effort. Now write it down.<\/p>\n Think back over your past jobs. What have been your most satisfying experiences and your most enjoyable moments?<\/p>\n Your aim is to replicate those feelings as you either embark on a new career or entrepreneurial endeavor . But you must first accept the responsibility of deciding what you want and then dedicating yourself to becom\u00ading the person you need to be in order to get where you want to go.<\/p>\n One technique that many use with great success is visualization. Visualization is the act of seeing your\u00adself where you want to be in \u2018x\u2019 number of years.<\/p>\n For instance, in three years, where do you want to be career wise? What is your ideal job, your ideal salary and your ideal working conditions? Imagine that ev\u00adery job in the world was open to you. What would you enjoy doing day after day? It has often been said that if you find a job that you love to do, you won\u2019t really have to work a day in your life. Find your passion and this could be true for you too.<\/p>\n Step 8: Get Clear on Your Why<\/strong><\/p>\n We often see celebrities that have reached the pinnacle of their industry receiving awards and accolades, but then we will see that same celebrity the next day sometimes getting arrested.<\/p>\n Why the discrepancy?<\/p>\n Their focus on succeeding in one area of life created a great imbalance with the other areas. You do not want to be like this. You want balance in every area of your life. Strive for congruency.<\/p>\n Becoming successful is great, but make sure you do not focus all your attention on this to the detriment of your health and relationships with others. Get clear on exactly why you want what you want. Jim Rohn said,\u201d Beware of who you become in pursuit of what you want.\u201d Without a purpose, you can easily become lost. Start by figuring out what your core values are.<\/p>\n All companies have clear, written values or mission statements that keep them on course. What is your personal mission statement? Just as companies thrive when they know where they are going, individuals do too. You can improve your personal and by extension your professional life by deciding what your core values are and not deviating from them.<\/p>\n When you are clear on your \u2018why\u2019, the \u2018how\u2019 becomes easier to see.<\/p>\n Step 9: Invite Pain over for Dinner<\/strong><\/p>\n \u201cThe greater danger for most of us is not that our aim is too high and we miss it, but that it is too low and we reach it.\u201d \u2013 Michelangelo<\/strong><\/p>\n Take out a piece a paper and pencil. Draw to dots, one on the far right and the other on the far left. Then draw a line to connect the two dots. The dot on the left represents where you are and the dot on the right represents where you want to be. That long line in the middle represents a gap.<\/p>\n How can you bridge this gap?<\/p>\n You can do so with new knowledge and updated skills. You will have to do something new and different to get to where you want to be. But it won\u2019t be easy though because anything worthwhile never is.<\/p>\n Just look around you. Everything you see began as a thought in someone\u2019s mind. The chair you\u2019re sitting on. The book you\u2019re reading. The car you drive. The clothes you\u2019re wearing. Everything begins with a thought. Then that thought turned into action. Action is oftentimes accompanied with pain. Why? Because you have to do something different. You have to get out of your comfort zone. You have to have self-discipline.<\/p>\n Olympic Gold Medalist Michael Phelps trained for years to get to the pinnacle of his sport. Olympic Gold Medalist Gabby Douglas did too. It wasn\u2019t easy, but they were dedicated and stuck to a rigorous training schedule every day.<\/p>\n If you want similar results in your professional life, you have to be willing to put in the time. If you really want to be successful in life, you have to be willing to suffer a little pain in the process. But the great thing about pain is that it\u2019s only temporary but the benefits can last a lifetime.<\/p>\n Step 10: Think your way to Success<\/strong><\/p>\n \u201cAll that a man achieves or fails to achieve is the direct result of his thoughts.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n
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