{"id":6431,"date":"2017-02-11T18:05:33","date_gmt":"2017-02-12T02:05:33","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/careersingovernment.com\/tools\/?p=6431"},"modified":"2017-02-27T21:59:45","modified_gmt":"2017-02-28T05:59:45","slug":"5-ways-leverage-pain-disappointments-heartbreaks","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.careersingovernment.com\/tools\/gov-talk\/career-advice\/on-the-job\/5-ways-leverage-pain-disappointments-heartbreaks\/","title":{"rendered":"5 Ways to Leverage Your Pain, Disappointments and Heartbreaks"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>[et_pb_section admin_label=&#8221;section&#8221;]<br \/>\n\t\t[et_pb_row admin_label=&#8221;row&#8221;]<br \/>\n\t\t\t[et_pb_column type=&#8221;4_4&#8243;]<br \/>\n\t\t\t\t[et_pb_text admin_label=&#8221;Text&#8221;]<\/p>\n<h4>What if you viewed:<\/h4>\n<ul>\n<li>Pain as fuel<\/li>\n<li>Hurt as something to look forward to<\/li>\n<li>Disappointments as your servant<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>How would that change your outlook on life? On your relationships? On your business? In your government career?<\/p>\n<p>Do me a favor and indulge me until you finish reading this article. I want you to question why you believe that:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Pain is something to be avoided<\/li>\n<li>Heartache is bad<\/li>\n<li>Struggle is something negative<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h4>No, I want you to really ask yourself why you believe that.<\/h4>\n<p>It\u2019s because along this journey of life you have picked up messages of mass thinking. Don\u2019t worry, I have too. But fortunately we can decide to believe something different.<\/p>\n<p>Did you ever hear your mom say, \u201cMoney doesn\u2019t grow on trees.\u201d If you heard that often enough, you probably picked up that mass thinking as fact and never stopped to question it.<\/p>\n<p>Or what if you heard your dad always say, \u201cPeople can\u2019t be trusted.\u201d If so, you probably inadvertently picked up that mass thinking concept as a child and have never bothered to question it either.<\/p>\n<p>What makes us suffer as humans are our own thoughts, or the mass thinking we\u2019ve adopted. According to master motivator Tony Robbins, most people don\u2019t ever master their thoughts and that\u2019s why they are in anguish.<\/p>\n<p>Best-selling author Jack Canfield, says, \u201cThoughts are simply programmed. We are conditioned by our parents, school, church, culture and so on.\u201d Because of this conditioning, we rarely revisit thoughts or beliefs that no longer serve us.<\/p>\n<p>So how do you in a sense re-program your long-held, deeply seated beliefs?<\/p>\n<p>According to motivational speaker Brian Tracy, you simply need to question the thoughts you currently believe.\u00a0 For example, let me ask you two questions.<\/p>\n<ol>\n<li>Do you believe it is possible for a person to become a millionaire?<\/li>\n<li>Now, do you believe it is possible for\u00a0<em>you<\/em>to become a millionaire?<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>I\u2019m pretty sure the majority of you said yes to the first question, but no to the second question. Why?<\/p>\n<h4>Why do you believe that?<\/h4>\n<p>If you simply change that belief, that it is possible, you will unlock your subconscious to look for ways to become a millionaire. But if you continue to believe that it is not possible for you, you will never unlock your potential power to find a way to make it happen.<\/p>\n<p>So how can you leverage your negative, harmful, painful thoughts to serve you instead of hinder you?<\/p>\n<p>Here are five ways you can do so according to leadership expert Robin Sharma. He calls it his five \u2018ings\u2019.<\/p>\n<h4>Journaling<\/h4>\n<p>Sharma said on his YouTube channel that journaling saved his life. He believes the antidote to pain is gratitude so he writes what he is grateful. In addition, he says that you can never escape your pain, you can only feel yourself through the pain. Journaling allows you to process the pain and use it as a servant and not as a cruel task master.<\/p>\n<h4>Talking<\/h4>\n<p>Sharma says that talking releases the energy of the pain. If you don\u2019t talk about how you feel, that energy stays inside you and you end up making yourself sick. When we repress, we only hurt ourselves.<\/p>\n<h4>Communing<\/h4>\n<p>Nature is something you must commune with. You have to go outside and walk, breathe and be at one with nature. Being in nature gives you much needed perspective on whatever ails you.<\/p>\n<h4>Moving<\/h4>\n<p>You have to move in order to improve. When you exercise you will shift your psychology, your neurobiology and your metabolic rate by releasing endorphins in your brain which is a natural motivational drug.<\/p>\n<h4>Resting<\/h4>\n<p>We can only get better if we recharge. Studies show that\u00a0it is only during sleep that the body and brain have a chance to do their repair work-to undo the subtle damage suffered by millions of cells over the course of each day. 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I want you to question why [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3167,"featured_media":6433,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"on","_et_pb_old_content":"<h4>What if you viewed:<\/h4>\r\n<ul>\r\n \t<li>Pain as fuel<\/li>\r\n \t<li>Hurt as something to look forward to<\/li>\r\n \t<li>Disappointments as your servant<\/li>\r\n<\/ul>\r\nHow would that change your outlook on life? On your relationships? On your business? In your government career?\r\n\r\nDo me a favor and indulge me until you finish reading this article. I want you to question why you believe that:\r\n<ul>\r\n \t<li>Pain is something to be avoided<\/li>\r\n \t<li>Heartache is bad<\/li>\r\n \t<li>Struggle is something negative<\/li>\r\n<\/ul>\r\n<h4>No, I want you to really ask yourself why you believe that.<\/h4>\r\nIt\u2019s because along this journey of life you have picked up messages of mass thinking. Don\u2019t worry, I have too. But fortunately we can decide to believe something different.\r\n\r\nDid you ever hear your mom say, \u201cMoney doesn\u2019t grow on trees.\u201d If you heard that often enough, you probably picked up that mass thinking as fact and never stopped to question it.\r\n\r\nOr what if you heard your dad always say, \u201cPeople can\u2019t be trusted.\u201d If so, you probably inadvertently picked up that mass thinking concept as a child and have never bothered to question it either.\r\n\r\nWhat makes us suffer as humans are our own thoughts, or the mass thinking we\u2019ve adopted. According to master motivator Tony Robbins, most people don\u2019t ever master their thoughts and that\u2019s why they are in anguish.\r\n\r\nBest-selling author Jack Canfield, says, \u201cThoughts are simply programmed. 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But if you continue to believe that it is not possible for you, you will never unlock your potential power to find a way to make it happen.\r\n\r\nSo how can you leverage your negative, harmful, painful thoughts to serve you instead of hinder you?\r\n\r\nHere are five ways you can do so according to leadership expert Robin Sharma. He calls it his five \u2018ings\u2019.\r\n<h4>Journaling<\/h4>\r\nSharma said on his YouTube channel that journaling saved his life. He believes the antidote to pain is gratitude so he writes what he is grateful. In addition, he says that you can never escape your pain, you can only feel yourself through the pain. Journaling allows you to process the pain and use it as a servant and not as a cruel task master.\r\n<h4>Talking<\/h4>\r\nSharma says that talking releases the energy of the pain. If you don\u2019t talk about how you feel, that energy stays inside you and you end up making yourself sick. When we repress, we only hurt ourselves.\r\n<h4>Communing<\/h4>\r\nNature is something you must commune with. You have to go outside and walk, breathe and be at one with nature. Being in nature gives you much needed perspective on whatever ails you.\r\n<h4>Moving<\/h4>\r\nYou have to move in order to improve. When you exercise you will shift your psychology, your neurobiology and your metabolic rate by releasing endorphins in your brain which is a natural motivational drug.\r\n<h4>Resting<\/h4>\r\nWe can only get better if we recharge. Studies show that\u00a0it is only during sleep that the body and brain have a chance to do their repair work-to undo the subtle damage suffered by millions of cells over the course of each day. 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